There are countless songs and poems to the effect that love is blind. The phrase “love is blind” is usually associated with physical appearances of the lovers. When you see an ugly person with a beautiful partner, usually a not-so-attractive man with a gorgeous woman along the lines of Humpback of Notre Dame, people usually say that love is blind (and the man is rich).
The other aspect of the phrase “love is blind” is the reduced ability of lovers to see faults in their partners. This could be the reason why so many faults surface after a break up, which could also because one or both parties are simply bitter and angry. Ok na rin at nag-break kami, eh ang kuripot (or substitute with other adjectives) nung taong ‘yun e. One readily accepts the flaws of a partner when one is in love. It’s unfortunate that even extreme acts, like physical violence, become acceptable.
The reason, science says, is that the part of the brain associated with social judgment seems to be switched off. According to one article:
It means neuroscience finally explains why we can’t see the faults in our partners or children which others can clearly perceive and as a result find our affection mysterious.
It also explains why we take so long to finally see the flaws in those we idealise because of our love, and which means we can end up choosing the wrong person to commit to.
The flaws only become apparent after our initial ardour has cooled, allowing previously suppressed brain areas to awaken to the reality of who we find ourselves with the morning after.
See? Love is really blind (pun intended). This is the reason why marriage and other serious commitments should wait until after we are “healed” from our blindness. If we still want to be with another person despite seeing all the faults of that person — and that comes after falling out of love — then that would be a better decision, as compared to rushing into things at the height of love. This could be the reason why, according to a song, only fools rush in, wise men say.
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